FOLLOW YOUR HEART

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Great sages, spiritual wisdom teachers and many ancient teachings all tell us to Follow Our Hearts.  This “cry” has been heard  for millennia, and yet in various stages of our lives many of us found it prudent and necessary to nurture the heart and follow the mind.  For example, many family “bread winners” have had to overlook the whispering of the heart in order to bring home the bacon, while working in companies where heart is shunned and the mind rules.

It was a great day when I took the Bronze parachute offered me and fixed my compass to steer me through the uncharted waters of a new life and career guided only by my heart’s longing to be of service.  In the All Girls High School I attended I was in Brescia House – our colour was Red – Root Chakra. Our House Motto was SERVIAM which is Latin for I Serve, and so with the many Holistic Courses I had been taking over the years for “personal growth” turned out to be my unconscious preparation for a major transition from Mind to Heart Centered work.

Many women share how unhappy they are in the corporate world of “dog-eat- dog” mentality and would like to get the confidence to leave and branch out on their own with a creative endeavour they have set their hearts on.  I always tell them, ‘when the time is right you will know,  or like myself something will happen to give you a push and the confidence to finally take that leap of faith’.

Here are some important life lessons I learned along life’s highway as an entrepreneur and have had the privilege of sharing with many of my clients and friends.  Some you may already know and practice, however repetition is known to be the best teacher in life.

  1. Your commitment to be of service to others is an important way of defining you and your business. The saying “people may forget who you are but they will never forget how you made them feel”, is so very true.
  2. Spend more time on the WHO you are, than what you do.  What you do will always be less important than who you become.  Knowledge is important.  However, it will never take the place of your soul light, your heart’s wisdom, your courage, your integrity, or your reputation as someone who can be trusted and who keeps her/his word.  Always try to keep your word.
  3. Life is often filled with challenges and obstacles. When you find yourself challenged, get in the habit of asking yourself the following three questions:
    1. What is the lesson for me?
    2. How can I grow from this experience?
    3. Am I living and fulfilling my Life Purpose?
  4. Clean out your messes! What is a mess?  It is anything that uses up your energy in a non- productive manner. E.g. untidy office, desk, living space, also friends/people who drain your energy – avoid them as much as possible.  Anything that scatters or uses your energy stopping you from being productive.  That is a mess!  In Feng Shui a clear space opens up for all your manifestations and dreams to appear in your life. (This one is from my mentor Raymond Aaron who in each session had us deal with the messes!).
  5. Be happy for someone else’s success even when you are struggling to get your business to the level you desire. What this does is; it raises your energy vibration. (Law of Attraction) and you find yourself manifesting your desires at a faster rate.
  6. Don’t feel bad if someone doesn’t like you. Love yourself!  Remember you are the only person you will have a relationship with for your entire life.  Love, honor and cherish… You!
  7. If family members or friends are not very supportive, try not to let their negativity sap your energy and your desire to succeed. Be focused on succeeding and you will.
  8. Don’t be afraid to say NO if your heart is telling you to. There is power in the word NO if done gracefully.  Saying NO allows you to not give your power away.
  9. Live always in an attitude of deep and profound gratitude. Life will love you back!
  10. ALWAYS FOLLOW YOUR HEART! Your head may be saying YES to something and your heart is telling you NO.  Your heart is the true compass leading you safely along life’s highway with grace, love and the perfect outcome.

Many Blessing

To your success.

Namaste

Sharon

 

 

 

Change

Happy Fall everyone.   Enjoy the beauty that is all around us at this time as we enter a Changeperiod of new Change.  It has been awhile since I communicated with you via my monthly Blogs.  In March, Change  (here I am in this Blog personifying change) came into my life while on vacation in Arizona resulting in a shatter/broken right ankle.  Change had some big plans for me as I went from month to month with a slow recovery not realizing at the time that I would end up mastering the art of Patience and finding tremendous Balance in my life.

As I lay waiting to be brought home for surgery, I called/texted severing all links with any business commitments that demanded my time and attention, anything that would distract me from the healing process that lay ahead.  I realized Change was with me to stay.  I felt that I would be laid up for 3 months.  Little did I know that six months to a year was more realistic for healing my ankle injury.  I had no idea what I was about to experience, however I was mentally and emotionally ready and I knew I was about to embark on a journey directed by Change.   I felt as if an adventure was about to begin.  I had no  negative emotions whatever regarding my condition and I felt as if unseen forces were supporting me.

Three days after my accident I was on a stretcher flying home flat on my back in the most fabulous private plane, a White Lear Jet.  I was told this was the plane of choice for the rich and the famous.  Coming home, I was accompanied by 2 medical personnel and the Jet was piloted by a former Air Force female Captain along with her male co-pilot.  We were flying 4,000 feet above commercial flights and arrived in Toronto at 6 a.m.   It was valet service all the way.  We parked in a special hanger at the airport where an ambulance and 2 attendants along with my personal medical team took me straight to my hospital for surgery.  All this thanks to my travel insurance.  Do not leave home without it folks!

Having a shattered right ankle with plates and screws does not allow one to carry on their normal day to day life.  In fact the change from very active to inactive was huge.   I was used to fill every hour of every day with “Do-ing”.  Here I was now just Be-ing and I must admit,  enjoying it!  For 3 months my waking and sleeping position was flat on my back with my right leg/foot in a cast elevated 24/7 and having to depend on someone else for my daily needs.   All my life if I needed something done I would do it myself rather than ask someone else and also I disliked injections.  Well, my friend Change, changed all that because I had to learn to give myself daily injections to prevent blood clots and rely on others for my every need.  That was a major Change!

This Change came at a time when I felt I was at the pinnacle of my life.  Change made me look within and the answers were profound.  Here are some:

  1. Change had been knocking on my door for a long time.  The universe was trying to get my attention.  However, I felt so secure in my day-to-day status quo life I ignored the signs.
  2. If you don’t “listen” to the little voice within to change direction, the universe will give you a swift kick in the rear to get your attention!   WOW!
  3. Always listen to your heart – not your head. Your heart knows what is best for you!

“Heart is truth and head is doubt!”

  1. When Change knocks, even if what is being presented seems financially unstable or unsafe, know that doors will open and opportunities will flow your way that you never imagined!
  2. Learn to say NO gracefully and with a smile. People will respect your decisions and feel safe around you.
  3. Doing nothing is not a crime! In fact that is when your heart gets your attention, speaks to you and puts you on a major highway (of life) when previously you may have been on a side street.
  4. Speak your truth. Be compassionate and kind always.  In doing so, you give others permission to do the same.

Anatole France said  “All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another.”   What I thought would have been so hard to let go of, was done for me with a broken ankle.   That is why I love Change and welcome it into my life.  It is not always joyful, however it always leaves a precious gift.

Seasons change!  We never hear of summer refusing to change, not allowing autumn to show off her glorious colours.  As humans we too must look forward to change with a positive outlook knowing that Change is there to show us what we can become.  Change steers us towards the bigger picture, thus helping us to reach our potential.   I would love to hear how positive change changed your life.

Be well,

Namaste

Sharon

The Power of Forgiveness

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The gift you give yourself.

This theme has been floating around in my mind for quite some time now and I was very resistant to write a Blog about it.  Why?   I really have no answer, so “why not”!  Here it is.  Many of you may relate to this.  Once given a “message” to do something, it does not leave until you follow through with it.   I got a big push to write this. The universe went so far as to put in my line of vision all sorts of articles on forgiveness, they were jumping out at me for weeks, so dear readers, here goes my take on what I know and what I have learned over the years about The Power of Forgiveness.

Forgiveness.   It is the greatest gift you can give yourself.  Honestly!  Try it!

 When you rid yourself of blaming or resenting another for something they may have done or said to you it is similar to a bag of cement falling from your shoulders.  Just imagine living, walking, working, sleeping, carrying that heavy load day after day. Once the load is gone, you lose pounds – literally. You look lighter and you feel lighter.  Your family and friends will notice the difference and you will feel so much happier.

forgiveness 3Apologizing – another form of forgiveness.  If you’ve offended someone – apologize.  Do not drag around resentment with you like a ball and chain.  It only serves to make you sad and bitter.  It will ultimately show in your facial expression and rob you of joy.  It doesn’t matter who was right. Someone once said:  “Holding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.”  Don’t take that poison.  Forgive, apologize, forget and move on with your life.  You are worth it!

Many are of the opinion that forgiveness releases the person who hurt them from blame, thereby allowing that person to believe that everything is “okay,” and “all is forgiven and forgotten.” Not at all!  You have forgiven.  That does not mean you have forgotten the hurt you experienced. By forgiving, you give yourself “that wonderful gift of peace and harmony.” Also you released the negative energy surrounding the episode that caused you hurt.

Here is something very profound I found in an article that makes so much sense:  Scientists, physicians, and psychologists who have researched the relationship between stress and illness have concluded that the ability or inability to forgive affects the outcome of serious illness. People who have a forgiving nature increase their chances of recovery.

I have heard many people say to me, “I will never forgive or forget” when something happens that makes them sad or angry.  It makes me sad for them, because I sense the bitterness they are holding on to in their lives.  One cannot be at peace while negative energy is choking out the love that wants to reside there.

The only advice I can share in a case like that is “Forgive.  You need not forget! Love yourself and know that every moment you spend upset, anguished, angry or hurt because of someone else’s behaviour, is a moment in which you have chosen to give up control of your life.  You are special! Reclaim your power.  There is no one like you and there never will be”.

Live, Love and LaughI would love to hear your thoughts on forgiveness.

May you always walk gently in sandals of love.

Namaste,

Sharon

DREAMS  DO COME TRUE

Dreams do come TrueDreams are powerful!  Dreams are inspired pictures of a new future waiting for each of us.   The bigger the Dream – the more powerful the urge to work towards that Dream.  A dream starts out like a tiny seed in the mind and that seed once it is planted needs to be nurtured in order for it to grow and bloom.  When we ignore our dream(s) they often die and a little piece of us dies with it.  I feel that our Creator, Universe, Source Energy, Infinite Mind (whatever you can relate to) will never plant a Dream Seed in your mind without giving you every opportunity and resource needed to accomplish that DREAM.    When you have a dream, pay attention to it! Nurture it! Be assured your dream will one day become an important part of your reality.  I love the following quote:

Inspiration is having the clear picture of what I am wanting — and letting Universal forces come into play to get the outcome. — Abraham

Not so long ago I had the honour of giving the Keynote address to a group of mature students who had big dreams and as mature students/learners they all saw their dreams become their reality.  Their hard work and persistence paid off. They all believed in themselves and followed their Dreams.

Anyone who has been around me for a long time know how passionate I am about Dreams. When it comes to manifesting, visioning and picturing/planning ones future, I feel it is imperative to set Big Goals for your Dreams.   Why?  Read on.

Dreams are persistent!    They don’t go away easily.  I call my dreams “God Whispering” or “The Universe knocking” and often refer to them in workshops as “Infinite Intelligence calling”. Whatever power you relate to, it is important to know that each one of us is being supported towards attaining our dreams and goals.  Dreams come to make us grow and become more than we ever thought possible.

Infinite intelligence makes sure that everyone has dreams and goals.  However, not everyone pays attention to the Whispering, the Knocking and the Calling when they have a dream!   Quite often, life interrupts and people bury their dreams.  There is nothing sadder than a garden of buried forgotten dreams and goals. From my personal experience, when you follow your dream, unseen forces will conspire to assist you in accomplishing them.

There is a famous saying that goes “CONCEIVE – BELIEVE –  ACHIEVE!

CONCEIVE  –  Is the mental VISION of your dream. Hold it close to your heart.  Focus on your vision and “visit” it daily.

BELIEVE – In your dream. Believe you are deserving of having it.  Most of all BELIEVE you have already gotten it!

ACHIEVE – You may have to take the necessary Action Steps needed to Achieving your dreams and goals.   James L. Allen says it beautifully: “The key to happiness is having dreams; the key to success is making them come true.”

Below are some action steps you can take to making your dreams come true:

  1. Know what you desire and VISUALIZE IT. Keep a vivid picture in your mind. Always write it down.
  2. BE PASSIONATE about your dream(s). Passion is energy and energy is a powerful attractor.
  3. TAKE ACTION toward achieving your dream. It may take you out of your comfort zone. Know that there is tremendous growth waiting for you.
  4. KEEP FOCUSED on your dream(s) and unseen forces will conspire to assist you beyond your wildest imagination.
  5. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF! Don’t let anyone’s opinion of what you can or cannot do influence your decisions.
  6. BE TENACIOUS! Hold fast to your dream(s) knowing in your heart that “Dreams Do Come True!”

“You are today where your thoughts brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.  “James L. Allen

Do share the dreams that you have accomplished and how it has changed your life.  I would love to hear your story.

Until next time, Dream Big and Be Bold!

Namaste,

Sharon

The Power of Circle

The Power of CircleTo gather in Circle is a sacred event when all minds are focused as one.

King Arthur’s  Knights of the Round Table come to mind as well as more modern Circles that are changing the world where the power of Women gather to lend their support for World Peace, World Hunger  and other challenges the world faces in today’s ever changing and evolving societies. (see The Millionth Circle and Gather the Women, Save the World by Jean Shinoda Bolen, MD.)  Dr. Bolen spoke how the women are joined by some very supportive and powerful men who bring their energies to support the work of the women in Circle.  There are numerous reasons why coming together in Circle is so very powerful.  A circle has no beginning and no end and is often referred to as a symbol of unity and perfection and even protection.

In nature we see the Circle repeated time and time again in wonderful examples of nature’s awesome gifts.  How often do we think of a Full Moon shining in the heavens as a Circle in all its perfection? Indeed!  We experience each month not only a perfect Full Moon, we also experience a beautiful New Moon that brings the waters of the oceans and tides to its fullness.  It is another perfect circle and one that supports farmers, gardeners, and plant life as this is the best time to plant our kitchen gardens and watch our seeds produce an abundant harvest.  It is during the time of the New Moon I love to offer Circle so all who wish to “plant their mental seeds” for their future can feel protected and supported knowing their “mental seeds” will take root and grow and manifest into their lives, energized by the Circle.  In Circle to express Gratitude for everything already received is very powerful.

The Circle is respected as an archetype of wholeness and integration, with the center understood to symbolize Spirit  –  The Source.  This is the beauty of Circle and today more than ever the women of the world are being called to gather in Circle to support each other and to share their wisdom with each member of Circle. Circle is also referred to as the Eternal Ring.  No doubt the wedding band exchanged in the wedding ceremony when two people pledge to support and love each other got its name from the Circle, the Eternal Ring now referred to as an Eternity Ring.  I welcome anyone who has another take on the wedding ring or Circle to share it.

As I sit and write this my mind floated back in time to my Reiki Level One Class over 20 or more years ago. My Reiki Master always had the room set up so the students  and herself  sat in Circle.  It was my first experience of a teacher sitting side by side with students  in Circle and I now honour Circle in all of my classes, especially meditation and Reiki.  I was in awe of her wisdom and humbleness.  Even more so when I realized how fortunate I was to be taught by one of the most experienced cancer care nurses in the United States who had the distinction of having been chosen Holistic Nurse of the year on several occasions.   “No one above, no one below,” was surely her motto.

So why is a Circle so special, so sacred and so powerful!   Here is one example: When we gather and sit in Circle, we recreate this perfection of sacredness.  We get to experience the energy and wisdom of each person sitting in Circle, knowing no one is above, neither is a person below another.  Everyone in the Circle is on the same level.  Each person is considered an equal.  I am told that many cultures use the circle for healing a wrong and the entire village comes out and sits in circle with the wrong doer sitting inside the circle, and they sit in circle until they reach  resolution, which is always for the highest good of all concerned. That is the Power of Circle!

Do share your Circle.  Until next time!

Namaste,

Sharon